“How to ask a girl out?” is a question that many guys ask themselves at some point of their life, usually when there’s a hot girl around them they’d like to invite out. Like with many other shyness-related problems, this problem is very simple to solve (yet it doesn’t mean that it’s easy!). In this article we would like to share with you a foolproof way to learn how to ask a girl out.
Overcoming Your Fear
First and foremost, in order to ask a girl out, you have to overcome your anxiety. Have you ever walked over to a girl only to utter a few words and get away as soon as possible? Well, that’s not what a confident person does.
If you want to approach a girl confidently, you shouldn’t hesitate. If there’s a girl who you want to ask out, instead of pondering over approaching her, just do it. The longer you stand there and hesitate, the more difficult it is to approach in a confident way. Don’t give yourself time to make excuses. This is the most crucial thing to remember: if you start trusting your instincts and act instantly, your brain won’t have enough time to start considering the outcome of your actions.
Follow a very simple rule of zero seconds. Whenever you see a pretty girl who you would like to get to know, don’t think about approaching her at all – just do it at the same precise moment you think “whoa, that’s a nice girl”.
The Right Way to Ask a Girl Out
If you want to ask a girl out and get her to say yes, you can’t approach her from position of weakness. Would she be interested in meeting up with a guy who’s afraid of her or who treats her as someone better than him? Hell no! When approaching, remind yourself that she’s at the same level as you are. Yes, she may be pretty, super sexy, intelligent, etc., but it doesn’t mean that you have to treat her like a queen. She’s just another human being who you find attractive, that’s all.
The right way to ask a girl out is to approach confidently (remember: no hesitation) and say something along the lines of “Hey, I think you’re an interesting girl. I’d like to get to know you. Let’s grab some coffee after work”. And that’s it! You really don’t have to use any stupid pick-up lines, you don’t have to observe her body language or give her 10 reasons to meet with you. She’s either interested or she’s not. Your job is to make an offer, her job is to either accept it or refuse it. We guarantee that if you keep asking girls out in this way, sooner or later one of the girls will say yes. Honesty is the best policy when approaching women.
If you want to avoid being friendzoned, make it clear that you want to meet with her because you’re interested in her in a sexual way, not only as a potential friend. You don’t have to tell it in an explicit way – just don’t hide your true intentions. Don’t play games. Women are better manipulators, and you’ll lose for sure.
Be a Badass
If you find it very hard to simply approach a girl and tell her that you want to meet with her, consider learning how to be a badass. Check this free video to get some tips from a guy who once was a complete failure with women, and find out how you can learn from him now. It’s probably one of the most teaching materials out there for guys who have absolutely no idea how to hook up with girls. I myself learned from such materials to become a guy I’m today – a guy who’s confident to approach any girl he wants to.
How to Finally Overcome Your Shyness
If you’re a very shy person, you probably have a very hard time talking to any stranger, let alone to a beautiful girl. If you’re so shy that you’re paralyzed whenever you want to ask a girl out or even talk with strangers, you should first focus on dealing with your shyness. One of the best books that you can ever read about this topic is Shyness Social Anxiety, a publication that will teach you how to finally overcome your shyness, improve your self-confidence and become good at making new friends. You can check this book here.
The Most Important Piece of Advice
Last but most definitely not least, I really have to emphasize it: don’t read hundreds of articles with tips on how to ask a girl out. Don’t ask your friends about it, don’t visit pick-up bootcamps, etc. You don’t need it. All you need is some basic confidence and the ability to state your intentions in a clear way. Believe us, women love when guys are straightforward. So instead of asking them if they can help you choose a suit or buy new shoes, simply tell them that you find them interesting and would like to get to know them better.
For some motivation, watch the video below: